I realize, she is very easy to love… But…

I realize that our sweet Seeley Flanagan is very easy to love. I realize if you are reading this, it’s because you love her too.

She is even proud to announce that loving the whole world is one of her (many) super powers. Prior to Covid, she would prove this by giving hugs to strangers to make their day.

I realize that even if you haven’t had a hug by my beautiful girl, you’ve likely been moved by her. In fact, even if you are half a world away, and you found us on a discovery into and through special needs — you probably already love her.

Or maybe you found us because adoption plays such a pivotal role in our story, and you want to see how our awesome adds up to see if you could imagine yourself in our Ville, building your family in this same way. …you probably love her already too (and also, if that is how you found us, or that is what you are doing, I see you. My loud and clear message, above all else is DO IT! You may be tired AF, for a long long time, but the love that will arrive some way some how, will be worth it!).

Let’s face it — even if you hadn’t had a hug from her, you’ve surely checked out her makeup tutorials on our Facebook page, or you’ve read about her particular interest in mermaids — and I am sure you’ve been charmed.

She is really something, and magnetic doesn’t begin to explain the pull she has with people. Undeniably lovable, empowered and quirky, worthy of all the things.

But…

Here is the thing — when she is a stranger, a loud, little stranger — and the person hasn’t yet had the chance to get to know her magic — she is a very loud, very big energy stranger. …And people can be mean.

Despite the fact that she is masterfully magnetic, charming beyond words and super worthy of the whole population loving her — people are mean to her. It might pain all of you FlanaGirl lovers to know, there are people that roll their eyes at her.

There are people that scold me for not being able to keep her quiet, still or in any other way “more appropriate” for the given situation.

There are strangers, super willing to {bitch face} stare as she shouts, “I am really a mermaid!” through the aisles of Target, in full and very custom even avant-garde makeup.

The truth is, as kids get older and bigger, the public expects more. They can continue shopping without judgement when the screaming kid in the cart is two or so.

But, the kid in my cart screaming and hollering, hiding or crying is nearing six. It was way easier when she was a tiny nugget, but right now — it’s hard.

The public expects more.

More than she has to give. More than she has learned how to do. More than she can accomplish when she has already been working so hard to do whatever else she has done that day.

It’s not fair. Especially, when you think of if, through glittering eyes, from within that red cart at Target. There are times she knows and times she doesn’t notice.

There are times she can feel other peoples judgment. There are many more times, when our Billy and I can see it and feel it as well.

Brain Break is a term we’ve used for a long time – they usually feature some sort of pressure/compression (weighted blanket/tail) a snuggly place to sit, where textures are soft and silky, in this case a bin, filled with leaves covered with a fleece blanket. An over the top blanket, mainly over her shoulders to pull her down and ground her a little. This blanket is also handy in “emergency fort need moments”.

I realize, she is very easy to love… but… she isn’t the only one. She isn’t the only person making a loud outburst in public, being misunderstood.

She may be the only mermaid, looking so fly, projecting such confidence— but to some she is just the extra, extra, hear all about it, loud stranger, throwing a thing.

She may be a super hero, changing the world, one heart at a time— but to some, she is just a little twerp kid, running through a parking lot, with a mom that doesn’t discipline enough chasing after her.

Hell, it’s not even about loud meltdowns – it’s about our many judgement triggering habits that are often the tools we use the be this successful.
It’s about her nook, it’s about eloping through or out of a store, it’s about not knowing danger and safety or being able to regulate when the whole damn world is so loud and bright, and eye contacty.

See The Seeley in folks more often. I can guarantee, if you stopped to learn the whole story, you’d find the person to be very easy to love and nothing but.

Curtsy.

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